Passion and Spirituality

Sometimes we seek joy and fulfillment by either overindulging or repressing our human desires. This week we explore how to integrate spirituality with our passion to create more balanced and powerful connections.

Transcript:

Elisheva: Good morning everyone. Good evening. Good afternoon wherever you are. Welcome to this week’s Weekly Energy Boost. My name is Elisheva and I’m here with David. We are super excited to be with you this morning. We are doing our first YouTube live show, so feel free to join in the conversation in the chat. Share the link with friends and family who you think would be interested. Weekly Energy Boost is a seven-day spiritual energy forecast where we share the most powerful, the most practical wisdom that we know. We’ve learned from our teachers and the wisdom of Kabbalah so that you can have the most effective and inspired week possible.

So, this week we are talking about passion and spirituality. As you can see from the image behind me, the leaf, this week the energy, the Universe is really inspiring us to create and push forward a new reality to make sure that our desires are in line with our actions. David and I are going to share with you some deep secrets on why that is, and how we can take advantage of it. There are so many places we could go with this conversation, but you know the Kabbalists teach that every week has a unique energy, and that the calendar itself is not used for the measurement of time, but rather for the measurement of energy and how learning that wisdom helps us navigate not only our daily lives but helps us to be more proactive in the bigger picture.

David: The reason why we study Kabbalah is because it all boils down to two forces, the desire to receive and the light force of the Creator. Everything we learn with the spiritual laws of this Universe is to help us understand what we need to do to the vessel, to the desire to receive. We all have our own vessel. We have the collective vessel of mankind. But the way I effect the collective vessel of mankind – which I know we are all interested in because we see what is happening in the world – is that I have to take control over my vessel. The only free will we have in life is what we do with our desire. So, we have desire – we have big desire, small desire, selfish desires, sharing desires, they are mixed up. We say we want one thing, really, we want another thing. We think we are in love. We desire this person, but maybe it’s not this person we desire. It’s the thing we get from the person, then all of a sudden, we don’t get it. So, it’s very confusing for a lot of people. And what Kabbalah does is it helps a person understand their desire, because it’s the only free will we have is what you do with your desire.

You can’t control other people. You can’t control the external … even though the opponent, the negative side, makes it seem like you can. That’s the whole illusion – I can change you. The illusion is I can manipulate and be clever with this world to try to get what I want. We are leaning, no, the Light Force has already parceled out for you all the blessings you will EVER want. It’s already earmarked for you. It’s set aside for you. Now, maybe someone else is borrowing it until you are ready, but it’s yours. The Zohar talks about something very powerful … that when a person hasn’t earned their vessel – hasn’t earned their soul partner, that soul mate – that the soul mate could be married to another person. Meaning, someone else is holding on; what’s a better way to put it … safe keeping.

Elisheva: [Laughs]

David: Safe keeping – that’s the same thing as our money, or sometimes our purpose. Maybe your purpose in this world, whatever your dream career would be, someone else is occupying that seat and that’s ok. It’s not a bad thing. No one is taking anything from you. And the moment your vessel, your desire to receive (and we are going to discuss ways to prepare that vessel on today’s show); but the moment that your vessel is ready to receive, it says that nothing can stop it. If it is a soulmate, the soulmate must leave that marriage and come to you however that happens.

If it’s a position at a company or business or money that is someone else’s hands and should be in your hands, nothing will stop the energy from coming to you. The Creator will make sure of it, so you don't have to worry. The only thing you have to worry about is what you do with your desire to receive, with your vessel.

Elisheva: I think it’s an important thing to point out that what we learn in the very first classes when you start to study Kabbalah is the idea that we have these two voices inside. We have these two forces almost like … you think of cartoons where you have the devil on one shoulder and the angel on the other. Kabbalah doesn’t teach we have a devil and an angel, but we have our true self, the spark of the Light force of the Creator; and, we have this other force that influences us … that tries to influence us not so we will listen to the corrupt or the tainted advice, but so that we will resist it.

I think that when you focus in on that internal dialogue – which to me a lot of what has happened in this past year, The Universe forcing us to cut down our interaction with the public, with people, to stay inside. It’s not only a directive to stay within one’s home, but to go within one’s self and to focus on that internal dialogue. The necessity … The Universe is begging us to look inside and reflect on who you are listening to. What broadcast are you tuned into? Because inevitably when you are tuned into the broadcast of the Opponent, you are always going to be tempted to take the instant gratification, to not hold out for the things you truly desire.

The concept of desire as we are talking about it today … a lot of people associate desire with sensual. When I say sensual, I mean the five senses even, not just you know, you have desire for food, for companionship, for a vacation, for a lot of money. And a lot of  those desires are very short cited.

Kabbalah teaches that if you really want fulfillment, desire the things that will give you lasting fulfillment. Because the short-term stuff is like eating popcorn … you get a large tub of popcorn at the movies and you feel really full until suddenly you are not, and you realize you just ate Styrofoam for the last two hours. So, this week we really need to look at what are the desires that I have that are directing me to long term fulfillment; and what are the desires that I have that are leaning toward short term fulfillment. When, let’s say for example you have a professional goal that you desire to be the best in your field. And when you put that desire out there – the Universe, to me I see it like almost like train tracks. The train tracks line up. They may have to turn one way or another. You have this path you decide that you are on, and along the way you are going to get these offers to shortchange yourself. I had a student that every time she was about to sign this huge deal, she would get tempted to go back to an old flame. Like literally.

David: Every time there was a business deal?

Elisheva: Every time there was a business deal coming up and I want you to (David) to explain why that happens. There is a very metaphysical explanation for why that happens. Somehow there would be this temptation to give in to the easy urge. You will see it with everything. Maybe I shouldn’t go too far down the relationship track, but you find someone you have real potential with, and an Ex will come and beg you for another chance. Or you get an interview with a company you really want to work for and the boss you have is begging you and will give you more money. The concept of that voice, the Opponent, or even the external … the appearance of the Opponent – whether it’s the Ex or the job that’s easier or more comfortable. I also had a student that hated her job but loved the benefits and stayed miserable in the job because she loved the benefits. So, this week we really need to look at what are the things we want and how are we shortchanging ourselves. How are we going for the easy out and then looking at our life and wondering why am I not where I said I wanted to be? Or I haven’t achieved the goals I desire to achieve, when in reality I’ve been giving away energy to the wrong things.

David: In Kabbalah we learn that there is two ways to have energy enter your life. There’s taking energy. You go out and you take it. You see something that you want, and you grab it. You say something, you feel lack in a group of people, so you try to say something funny because you want to take that energy.

I remember teaching a class, probably 2006, in someone’s home. Someone invited me … it was six people and they asked can you teach a class? I could tell that five of those people didn’t want to be there. One person forced everyone to be there. And the five people that didn’t want to be there, they constantly made jokes during my teaching. I am teaching Kabbalah One, class one, and they are making jokes, and they are coming up with their witty banter constantly. And I realized, I had a conversation with them. Kabbalah One, class one is all about the reactive behavior ­– about when I want something, I feel lack and I take it. I said part of your reactive behavior in this class, is every time you feel lack or maybe you don’t want to be here, instead of being a giver and acting like the Light – the way you take energy is by being witty and clever and coming up with sarcastic jokes. Everyone kind of looked at me and one guy said, “My whole life, I am just sarcastic because that’s the way I fill my void.” That’s an example of taking and we take all the time.

A person comes home and sees their family … maybe a man or woman. They haven’t seen their family all day and maybe you had a hard day. Or you had a long day or a draining day. Your tendency is probably going to be to take energy. Then maybe the person that was at home had a hard day too, and they want to take energy from you. So, taking is one mode, perhaps the most popular mode the Kabbalists say. Every time you take energy, and we will explain what the opposite of taking is — it’s not giving — every time you take energy you have chaos. What happens is what’s called a Tzimtzum, a contraction that the light that you took must leave you.

So how does Kabbalah teach that receiving is actually a magical powerful thing. What does it mean to receive? Receive means the energy comes to you but it’s not you taking it, it’s being given to you, and it’s a very different feeling. And when you receive something it can last forever. When you receive something, it has continuous blessing. When you take something, you have a higher high and then a crash. When you take when you are angry with someone, and you shout and yell, and all the things that hurt you for the last couple of years and you blurt it all out at once – you feel really good because you got it off your chest. You feel high. But essentially what you did, is you took. Yes, all those things you said needed to be said, but they needed to be said in a way that involves restriction and spirituality and some of the tools we are going to talk about.

Taking becomes receiving when you implement some spiritual tools. We can all think of when we receive in our lives and how it lasted. When the relationship was received not taken. When the wealth was received not taken. When the wisdom was received not taken. We will explain a little bit more about the difference between the two. But that’s what I want to talk about today, is receiving and that it’s tied into passion, sexual energy, all these things as well. Because the stronger the energy, the harder it is not to take it.

Elisheva: It’s so funny … in my notes one of the points I wanted to make, because I know this conversation, especially if you are new to the show or new to spirituality … sometimes when talk about the Opponent, it can be really scary. And it can be overwhelming and sometimes feels like, “If I’ve got this force challenging me all the time, how I can I ever expect to win? 

David: Right.

Elisheva: How can I expect to win? How can I expect to succeed? The facts are that the greater a person’s capacity to reveal light, the higher, the more elevated a person’s purpose is, the stronger the Opponent is gonna be. The stronger the resistance even externally a person will experience, because the greater the darkness, the greater the light. As we grow … this is like Kabbalah One class three now, we are doing a quick crash course today. We talk about how, as you grow, your opponent has to grow. One of the things I see with students is in the beginning, when you start learning this wisdom and practicing this practice, that you see immediate results. Someone was just sharing in the chat since they started taking classes with you, they stopped being sarcastic and that’s everything they used to be. After they heard you talk about this, they quit sarcasm cold turkey. But what happens, is there are certain things that when you start on the spiritual journey, they fall off – like the weights, or patterns, or habits that are usually fresh – they aren’t related to lifetime, after lifetime, after lifetime. They are new and fresh habits or negative tendencies. They fall off easily so the person feels like, “Wow I can do this!” This is awesome. Spirituality is awesome. Kabbalah is awesome. They have this passion and this drive until they hit something, they have been carrying with them for lifetime after lifetime – and then we start to see how our Opponent gets us. The hard part about the Opponent is there is always a little bit of truth to what the Opponent …

David: He always uses some truth, absolutely.

Elisheva: It’s convincing because you can see how it can be true. The Opponent starts in and tells us lies. Right? You know they don’t love you; you are not respected. That’s a big one … they don’t respect you. And then you find yourself in this struggle to get respect instead of focusing on the real reason you are in that situation. Whatever you were passionate about – whether your relationship, or career, or sometimes people talk about their homeowner’s association; that’s like where all of their darkness in their life is right now. Pay attention to that voice and notice how, as you are spiritual prowess grows, so too that voice has to grow; otherwise, it won’t pose a challenge to you anymore. If your opponent stayed five years old and you were thirty-five, there wouldn’t be much of a challenge there. The purpose of the Opponent is to help us extract our own greatness, not so we will be owned by it.

David: I want to give some more examples of taking versus receiving so the audience can relate to it. If you remember every year, we have these huge events. First of Libra Rosh Hashanah, and thousands of people … and these events would be very spiritual powerful events of meditation, and learning – and you know it started 9 am and usually would end around 4 pm. We go to lunch around 4 pm and the lunch is usually … Those of you who are listening know what I am talking about, lunch is in a different room. The session is over, and everyone goes to lunch – and lunch is like a buffet – and people are stampeding to the buffet. All people want … people think the food is going to end or something, so they are running to get the food and grabbing at what food they can get. It’s funny … we just had this eight-hour spiritual moment of learning how to become givers and receivers not takers; but in reality, everyone is running to the buffet.

Elisheva: But wait … we are meditating, we are unified in prayer, we are at the most elevated.

David: It’s the Garden of Eden

Elisheva: You can’t imagine how amazing this experience is …

David: The moment the hunger kicked in and the food is available … Here’s the – think about a test. Two things have to be there for a test. Your desire and the opportunity to fulfill the desire have to both be there. Everyone was hungry, but because there was no food there was no test. When you are hungry and there is no food you let go. As soon as the food is there that’s when the test is. A lot of people tell me, I am in control of myself and my desires until the most beautiful and toxic person is in front of them. Now they are not. Or the Ex texts them and all of a sudden it brings up emotion. So, now the opportunity to take energy is there, so that’s when the test comes. So anyway, the point is that whenever you are really hungry or in a mood, a bad mood, those are the times that you want energy. The secret is to restrict. To let go and pause and it’s going to feel like you are going to die. That’s what it feels like. That’s why it’s so hard. People feel like if I don’t get the food, I’m gonna die. People take the relationship because someone else is going to take it and then I’ll be alone and I’m gonna die. If I don’t take the money, everyone else will take the money, and then I’m gonna die! That’s the fear that everyone has. But the truth is that it is the exact opposite. Whenever you take you can’t enjoy. Whatever you take you have become; you stay in darkness.

Elisheva: I think the best example of that is flirting. Because many times people say I want my soulmate. I want a true, meaningful, lasting relationship then they take, to borrow your terminology – they take energy from anybody who will give them the time of day.

David: Right

Elisheva: That, it’s harmless on the physical level. Sometimes it leads to one-night stands and what not, but what we don’t realize, again, is we have these long-range vision goals. I want to be with the right person for the rest of my life and build a family, have happiness, have a white picket fence. But, at the same time, we are taking energy like a black hole that opens up and says, “I need energy and I’m going to suck all the energy from whoever is in front of me.” Whether it’s … again we are definitely out less, but to whatever degree you can find it now – you can do it on apps or social media; you know, you go to a 7-11 to get a Slurpee. There is another human being there you can take energy from. And then people say, “Well I don’t understand … I am spiritual. I’m nice and kind. I am the person I want to marry.” kind of thing. And they don’t understand why they aren’t getting closer to their goal.

David: I want to drive this home, because you have one vessel and what you put in it is what’s in it. I remember one time going to a wedding or a party with someone … a long time ago. It was one of these million-dollar weddings with the best food, and I remember driving with this person and he was eating these potato chips in the car. Eating the whole bag. I was like, “Why are you eating these chips?” And he said, “I’m hungry.” And I said, “We are about to go to the place with nineteen cuisines and the best food … why are you filling up with chips?” By the time we got to the wedding he couldn’t eat any of the food. And that essentially … what we are saying you have one stomach, one vessel. Not that flirting is bad, it’s communication. We transfer energy, it’s all fine, but we have to be clear when you take energy. It’s like eating the chips before the meal – it’s going to fill you up with something that you didn’t even want. It’s not what you desire or it’s not the glory, the pleasure you truly want to enjoy. We forgo and can’t let other things in. A person who wants a long-term fulfilling relationship delays it when they fill themselves with other energies. Here’s the other thing … when you fill yourself with spiritual potato chips you lose the desire for food. When you lose your desire the food leaves. The soulmate leaves and comes back months later because your desire is removed by the potato chips you ate. 

Elisheva: If you think about the people that you have encountered, that you have remarked, “Wow look at how passionate they are … Look at how inspired they are … Look at how they are relentless in their drive for whatever it is …” – know they are not eating potato chips. That’s the secret to maintaining the passion, is to not give in to the little easy urges. It’s like snacks, or maybe we will continue calling it spiritual potato chips. But those people – you want to call it discipline you want to call it restriction – they aren’t allowing themselves to shortchange themselves on the path to getting what they want. And the Universe is structured in such a way that we are constantly going to be tested. It’s not about pass/fail. It’s literally like the spiritual gym. You love the instructor you are going to this exercise class again … a wasted metaphor during this year. But you are on your Peloton bike, you love this teacher, but suddenly you get a new teacher, and the new teacher is a drill sergeant. It feels like punishment, but the punishment part or the struggle that a person has in that exercising is actually what allows more muscle to be built and more calories to be burned. Think of all the benefits of why the person is exercising the first place. If it’s easy it doesn’t get us where we are going.

So, the tests are not … I’ve spooked to a lot of people that say you know I can’t do this it’s too hard. It’s not about whether you pass or fail. I’ll sound like a Hallmark card in a minute now. The process is the purpose. Not the outcome. That’s why sometimes we are on the way toward a higher goal and we are pushing toward it and there is a detour. We think it’s a detour, but it’s actually the Universe telling us you are so driven, so certain, so relentless. Let me know you what would be even better for you. I think that’s another thing that has come up for a lot of people in the last few months. I can’t have what I want but the Universe is showing me to focus on something else now. A lot of people, even professionally, have had to pivot this year and have found amazing things as a result. If that had come a year or two ago, we wouldn’t have been open to it.

David: Here’s some practical tools of how to transform from taking to receiving. Remember receiving takes more patience. However, it’s much more powerful. Someone told me something amazing about our teacher Rav Berg. He said it this weekend. He said the Rav became more spiritual, more elevated, more powerful, even more well-known and famous, even Time Magazine’s most influential people in the world at one point. The Rav moved slower. He actually wasn’t out there … you fight in the beginning to create something, but as you start to receive and grow more energy comes. You have to have more letting go, more restriction, more humility. What that does is essentially expands your vessel. Every time you let go, your vessel expands so more can come in. It seems like a total contradiction. We think that by taking the energy that’s how we get more. The mantra that I use … that I want to use – we have pause what a pleasure when it comes to facing a challenge or something negative happens. We say, “Pause, what a pleasure.” – meaning you pause, you don’t react or take energy, and you affirm that this is good. This is good for me. It comes from the Creator and it will help me receive more in the future. What I like to say at every moment is first you have a desire for something, that’s step one. There will always be a desire that comes up. It can be for food, energy, pleasure, relationships, sex, doesn’t matter. There is a desire. Then I do Pause, Pray. I pause then I pray. What do I pray? I say I am going to let go. Is this right for me? Should I have this now? Is it coming from neediness or addiction? Is it coming from my need to build my ego? It can be anything. For example, running to the buffet.

Elisheva: The actual buffet this time.

David: Sometimes you are sitting at a dinner table with 8 people and you are hungry. I remember this sushi platter once came and there was all these different pieces of sushi and maybe someone will take the piece you want, the two pieces without rice when you are on some paleo carb free Atkins thing, so you worry someone will take it. The plate is moving towards you and you want to take those two pieces without rice, and rightfully so because everyone else can eat rice.

Elisheva: How many of our listeners can relate to what David is saying right now?

David: The plate is coming toward you. We gotta pause. Pray. Pause and say you know what I am going to let go. Maybe someone else has a no rice diet. If this piece is meant for me, it will be there. I’ve seen it so many times when people will grab those two pieces and it falls apart in the chopsticks and plops on the plate, and all of a sudden as they are eating it a whole tray of non-rice beautiful sashimi comes but you feel shame because you took it.

Elisheva: One second, not to interrupt you but to redirect you for a second.

David: Can you guys relate?

Elisheva: We are getting comments that everyone can relate, but I want to speak to the people who are not relating for thirty seconds. What about the people that don’t feel they deserve the two pieces they can eat? What about the people that say you know what…?

David: I don’t deserve to eat anything. 

Elisheva: I don’t deserve to eat anything, or…

David: I’ll just suffer.

Elisheva: There’s a lot of people out there who say why bother. I’m not gonna enjoy it anyway. I don’t know what I’m doing here. Nobody’s talking to me. We all have been there and go there sometimes even though it’s not our normal mode.

David: The person who is saying, “I don’t deserve even the sushi, I’ll just starve.” Everyone has a desire, so it just looks like they have no desire. They have a desire. Their desire is to feel bad for themselves so other people will see them as a martyr. People out there pretend they don’t want anything, but they want the world to see them as a martyr. 

Elisheva: I want to make sure it’s clear …

David: That’s an ego. You are taking.

Elisheva: Taking energy … 

David: You are taking and it’s sneaky.

Elisheva: Ignore me, I’m not here. But it’s a form of taking as well.

David: It’s a form of victim consciousness.

Elisheva: It looks like they are humble and it’s really not.

David: If no one existed in the world you would take that sushi and you are not because you want everyone to feel bad for you like you are a sacrificial lamb; sacrificed for your family, “See how much I sacrifice?” I want to be known as the sacrificer. That’s a huge Tikkun, a huge correction, and the worst kind of ego because it’s so sneaky. Everyone will applaud that you are a sacrificer because it brings them comfort. This person will never eat my food. This person will always just sacrifice, and I know. 

Elisheva: Or I know that person will always say yes, so I know I can always ask them. 

David: Exactly. I’ve seen so many people in our classes (live classes) … I remember one woman stood up and said her whole life she just gives and gives, and everyone just poops on her and she never gets any respect. But she realized she wants to be the martyr – falling on the sword. I used to have a friend who always talked about the guy who jumped on the grenade. Always wanted to be the guy who jumps on the grenade. I asked why. Our teacher used to say there is so much ego. Obviously sacrificing your life is very noble heroic thing, but if it’s the thing that gets you – fulfills your lack or insecurity that you are waiting to sacrifice – then it’s about you. There’s a lot of ego there. It’s actually taking, not receiving. Receive is why pause, pray? I pray that I don’t have attachment because when you have attachment you can’t receive. When you have attachment a part of you is taking. That’s the secret. And you always have to self-audit and ask am I attached right now? Am I attached to getting it or not getting it? If I don’t get it will I be happy? No. Ok, so then I have to have it. There is a part of you that’s trying to take it, to manipulate the scenario. Every time you can pause, pray and audit make sure where is my ego, where is my attachment – you are protected. Now you open the gates, you expand the vessel, and you’ll see that it will start to come to you. Energy will start to come to you. Pleasure will start to come to you.

I gave this class once about money that the people were very type A and ambitious and went out there to get all the money. You have to be careful because you are so good at what you do, so talented, so creative, you could get money that doesn’t belong to you. So, let’s say for example one hundred thousand dollars belongs to you but you are so smart and creative you found a way to make two hundred thousand. But that extra hundred thousand doesn’t belong to you, it’s somebody else’s. Now that extra hundred thousand, that surplus is going to cause you chaos. So, do you really want it? My energy is thinking get / take as much as possible. How do I know it’s not mine? You always have to let go. When the check is coming you have to wait one second. Talk to the Creator and pause pray and ask is this even mine? Creator if it’s not mine I don’t want it. If it comes to you, it’s yours … but we have to be of that place where we are letting go and allowing the Creator to share with us.

Elisheva: We have two questions. Ready? One actually came from a listener by email last week. We had said last week we were going to talk about sex and stuff like that. We could for a few minutes if people are interested.

David: We took a detour …

Elisheva: This is the only email I got about it, so I understood not everyone is interested. She was asking how to maintain the examples we use about accomplishing, achieving, striving, are often about finding the relationship. She was asking about how to maintain passion in her marriage. Based on what we were saying before, wanting that long term success. The accomplishment isn’t finding the partner, it’s having a long-lasting romance with your partner. She was asking, “How does one remain, how do you keep the passion in a marriage, in a long-term relationship after the initial fires have …

David: It’s a very common thing that once you’re in a committed relationship – be it marriage or not – once you are really committed to someone, the dynamic changes and there is a different type of energy between the two of you.

Elisheva: By the way, I should plug that we are going to dedicate … in a couple months … four shows to relationships. So, hang in there we are going to talk about it totally. But I want to get in the passion part. The passion is probably the first thing that goes. If you start a family and you both have jobs that you are committed to, life takes over.

David: It’s not that the passion leaves. People think that when they get married the passion leaves. Something else is happening. When you are not in a committed relationship the energy is taking. It’s like how can I … it’s like lust. When you are not committed you are open. There are other things. Other people.

Elisheva: Other outlets.

David: Other outlets. So, the program in the brain is “How much can I take?”. Also, because the other person isn’t committed to you there is always a fear of losing them. So, every time you get something from them it renews you. It makes you feel alive. Now, what happens when you are committed to each other – the game is over. There is no more trying to prove yourself. That is the Creator’s way of saying now you can receive. You can receive from the person. You don’t even need to take anymore. Lust is now replaced with love. And because we are not trained in that regard – we are trained to take – people once they become committed, they start to shut down. They are so programed to take and now they don’t need to take they can receive but receiving seems so bland to them.

Elisheva: Again, it goes back to the idea of having a challenge, right? There’s a lot of people that flirt or try to get the person because the challenge once they get the person …

David: They are addicted to the sacrifice, need to accomplish. For them dating was always how can I accomplish another date? How can I accomplish them to commit to me? Now they committed to me so now we shift their energy. We start working hard on business and other relationships and other outlets where they enjoy the taking. There are other sexual relationships they go for because their essence is how can I just take energy? Now that I’ve already taken this person, and put a ring on it, their mind is thinking they don’t need to do much. It isn’t fun anymore. But quite the opposite. Now it’s a very high-level replacing lust with love and now you can receive and create circuitry which brings tremendous blessings to every other part of your life. When you are in a committed relationship and you create circuitry there, you devote your passion there and don’t go outside the marriage or relationship, what will happen is a very high level of light will be revealed. You will feel that energy. It’s not just out there in the cosmos. You will feel it. Then that light will shine down on the children, the business, all the other parts of your life. The marriage, the relationship is the nuclear reactor, the nucleus of everything else, so when there are problems in the marriage or relationship then there is chaos in all the branches of a person’s life. We gotta talk about that in relationships.

Elisheva: I’m excited about it. We have some really cool topics coming.

David: I did want to talk a little about the sexual thing. People ask about it all the time. In Kabbalah we never say do this, don’t do that. We never got there. That’s not the religious dogma of you should, or you shouldn’t. What we love to do is teach people about energy. The sexual energy on the thought level, the words and the actions, draw tremendous energy. It draws tremendous light. And when the vessel is not prepared … there is two ways it is not prepared. One, it’s not of a sharing mode. You are in a relationship and it’s not about sharing with the other person it’s about lust.

Elisheva: Take.

David: Take. So that means the vessel isn't ready. The other thing that means the vessel isn’t ready is when there is neediness. Or fear. That also makes the vessel not ready, so you draw all this energy into a vessel that is small and not ready and there is a short circuit.

Elisheva: We also talk about you know, doing the right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing.

David: Exactly.

Elisheva: Sometimes it’s about the timing as well.

David: Exactly. I was talking to someone who was dating and getting to know each other. Obviously, there is passion, and I said the slower you take it, the more you can feel, you can understand what the relationship actually is. The minute you draw the energy in, you drown out everything else. It muddies everything else. You don’t really know how their personality is after that. You don’t really know what their baggage is. It’s all being submerged in the powerful energy that you are drawing. So, if you take it step by step – build the vessel, then bring the energy later on – you will always have more fulfillment and less chaos that way.

Elisheva: The other question which is totally connected is … if you are, how to you make sure that your desire stays strong for the long-term fulfillment.

David: Are we talking about in a relationship?

Elisheva: I think it applies to anything. We can talk about it professionally, in a relationship. I think a lot of people start out with strong desire, clear vision … I know what I want. Then, because of trial and error – you can call it heartbreak, rejection, whatever it is – the desire diminishes. Someone is writing in they don’t have any desire at all. They are complacent. They don’t deserve. You can go to the extreme of … I hear people say all the time, “Maybe I don’t deserve. Maybe I’m not meant to have my soulmate, get married, be wealthy.” – all that stuff. How does a person keep their focus, keep the passion, and elevate their desire, purify their desire?

David: I’ll share something I think is so powerful … that without Kabbalah I would never have this. Our teacher, Rav Berg, taught me personally this thing twenty years ago. He said you have to choose every day how you want to feel and how you want to desire, what you want to desire. What does that mean? As a Pisces, do you ever get affected by the weather, the gloom? For me being born and raised in California … Are you born and raised in California?

Elisheva: Of course, I am. For sure!

David: Born and raised in California you see the sun.

Elisheva: We are spoiled.

David: It’s my norm. Then when I went to New York for eight years …

Elisheva: I had one year in London.

David: You had a lot of gloom. 

Elisheva: Yes, I had gloom the first few months there.

David: I remember when there was no sun, I would get sad. It’s like a bad starting point. Then I realized that what my teacher said. I wake up, and every day when you wake up you have to start over. Every day you have different desires.

Elisheva: Not that you have to … you GET to.

David: You get to, but you need to know that there is a reboot. Everything you had before goes out the window. Even after twenty years of studying between you and I … I will wake up in the morning and whatever consciousness I had the day before is gone. And I have to spend ten, twenty, thirty sometimes an hour deciding how do I want to feel today? What kind of desire do I want to have today? I don’t have any desire. How do I want to build that desire? You have to re-establish, build the Legos, put the Legos back together every morning of who you want to be. A lot of times people are saying I feel this way, I feel that way, and yeah that’s always gonna be the reset default. The opponent will come in and give you a desire that you don’t want or take away the desire. Whatever it is, something will force you to re-establish yourself every day. So, what I do, it’s mediation, I have no choice because if I don’t do it, the other desires will take control and then it’s a chain reaction. When you have negative desires, you do negative actions, you say negative things and that creates more chaos. The chaos continues. Every morning it’s about establishing … I have a list of about twenty points of conciseness. I look at that list every day and I say I need to desire this, and I need to think this way. I’ll pray for it and ask for it. Then that’s the way to do it. Have you ever gotten an adjustment at the chiropractor? It’s like you’re aligned.

Elisheva: All the time. Last week I had a great one.

David: You walk out, you feel you are taller. You feel the energy vibrating through your body. Then you sit on a chair for two hours. You bend over, you pick this up. You hold the baby. All a sudden everything goes out of alignment.

Elisheva: I feel so exposed today. You are reading me like a book today.

David: Everything goes out of alignment. Then you gotta get realigned again. That’s just how it is with spirituality. If you feel bad, if you feel negative, you feel the negative thoughts are overwhelming you, just means you gotta readjust yourself and decide what you want to desire. Ask the Creator for help. How you want to think and ask the Creator for help. How you want to act and ask the Creator for help. And you be strengthened to do that.

Elisheva: For those of you that are joining us for the first time … I know for some of you are catching us in the middle. I want to encourage everyone to go back and listen to the beginning of this show, but go back to the library on YouTube and catch up on shows you may be interested in. It’s our first-time doing YouTube live so we are getting the hang of it. We will be able to go back and answer your questions and comments throughout the week, but this is something you can subscribe to the page so you can get notifications every week when we go live. We want to keep the conversation going with you throughout the week. We have … the next couple months we have guests every other week, so we have a lot of exciting content we are preparing for you.

David: Did you tell people we will be on YouTube from now on? We will be on Kabbalah Center YouTube page live.

Elisheva: This is going to be our home for the foreseeable future so get comfortable. Get used to it. The picture is brighter and sharper, but we want to hear from you guys. We are embracing change as the rest of the world is.

David: We have more live viewers on YouTube than we did on Facebook. Just a new platform.

Elisheva: What’s really cool about it … many times we say how can we get the translation because we have viewers all over the world. On YouTube you can get automatic subtitles. So, feel free to send to your friends and family who English may not be their first language. We have an opportunity to reach a much wider audience doing the YouTube live this way. So, share, like, comment. We are also on every podcast platform so we can come to your device. Subscribe on Spotify, iTunes, wherever you get your podcast.

David: I don’t want to forget the exact date. I think in a couple week I will be giving a new global Kabbalah One.

Elisheva: End of October …

David: I believe I am giving it and it will be earlier in the day… 4 pm PT so people all over the world can do it. I believe last time we had 1200 people join. It’s a pay what you can model, even if you can’t afford the course.

Elisheva: We will give more information in the coming weeks. We’d love to hear from you. What are the topics that you are interested in. I’m trying to think. I believe this month we are going to be talking about fear if I’m not mistaken. Next week we enter the month of Scorpio and we will spend some time understanding fears, phobias, and the Kabbalistic wisdom to overcome them. Let’s say … I don’t want to scare you, but you should be afraid to miss those episodes. On that note any closing words, David?

David: I am really excited about this topic for people. People ask me what’s one thing on my list every day, and the one thing (I got this from Michael Berg) … I ask the Creator to give me certainty that everything is for the good, so I never doubt it – I never think that something that is happening is bad. That’s just one thing on my list of twenty things that I’ll pray for and ask for.

Elisheva: I love it and I love you guys. Have a fabulous week, and we’ll see you next time on the Weekly Energy Boost.